A Grief's Core
A Grief's Core
At this point in hospice care, it is no longer necessary to use aggressive therapeutic methods. As a result, palliative care is commonly used. On all levels, patients have been tested emotionally, psychologically, and physically. Beyond the events that caused their doctor to tell them there's nothing more they can do, individuals may be resistant to any form of treatment.
Palliative care, hospice, literature, death, dying
Article Body: Patients admitted to the hospice program often arrive with injuries such as burns, poisonings, and cuts. The standard of care for the majority of patients diagnosed with a life-threatening condition is surgery, followed by chemotherapy and radiation treatment. Staff workers in hospitals are taught to prioritize curative care above all else.
At this point in hospice care, it is no longer necessary to use aggressive therapeutic methods. As a result, palliative care is commonly used. On all levels, patients have been tested emotionally, psychologically, and physically. Beyond the events that caused their doctor to tell them there's nothing more they can do, individuals may be resistant to any form of treatment.
This article's stated goal is to argue that additional measures are possible. In order to stabilize and alleviate physical pain and suffering, our doctors and nurses are trained to assist patients in receiving medication. Licensed social workers are able to assist bereaved families and patients in navigating the legal, logistical, and psychological challenges that come with a loss. Beyond self-awareness, spiritual counselors assist in integrating emotional health with a feeling of faith and optimism.
I would like to touch on three points regarding the grief process in this short piece:
At the Center of Caring,
Empathy at Its Core, and
A Spirit Revived
As a hospice spiritual counselor, I will provide comfort to those grieving from a spiritual perspective.
The Essence of Caring
At its core, hospice care is centered around attending to the dying patient's needs. Any effort to dissuade a patient from being themselves escalates into a power struggle. Listening and caring for someone unconditionally allows them to pass away in the same manner in which they lived. The patient's yearning to be fully understood will be piqued by our capacity to meet them in unconditional love. Here is where we might encounter him or her in a merciful and gracious way.
Patients are not pathogens. Soul awakening is occurring in patients. Mary was a defiant, independent woman who fought against death. Her character was commanding. She wished she could cling to all the hats she had worn throughout her life. Among her several responsibilities, she was a wife, mother, and friend.
Mary confided in me just two weeks before she passed away that she had a dual identity: her fiery personality and an unexplainable sense of calm. Mary could more and more relate to the desire for peace above agony as her death drew near. Instead of clinging to a body that was betraying her, she began to prefer this connection with her spirit. She was now coming into her own.
The Essence of Caring
The patient is tempted to cling to what remains of their life because they have given up so much while dying. Some patients persist in trying to hold on, even though doing so will increase their pain and suffering. This part of a patient's process of letting go is important for caregivers to be mindful of. A patient requires assistance and direction in order to progress from letting go, which is a deliberate act, to letting be, which is achieving peace with one's own death. The compassionate caregiver will go to the core of their being by allowing the patient the room they need to begin the journey from "letting go" to "letting be."
When a person passes away, their soul takes over their personality. Hearts are shattered along the way. Wanting to stay with loved ones complicates this desire to exit a painful body and seek tranquility (one's authentic self). An internal channel emerges from this pent-up stress that goes beyond both personal and social awareness. This boils down to a fight for the soul's existence. A person's spirit progresses along this road.
The deceased's spirit, not their physical form, is what compels us to confront death, as funeral rites serve to remind us. For those grieving and thinking about the lives of the departed, these memorial rituals mark a passage into a new phase. A connection that was once formed in another person's body and outside of ourselves is no longer relevant. Now our connections to the departed exist only within us, as an unseen thread connecting our consciousness to a spatial quality that carries the departed farther into the soul.
A Spirit Revived
Life is deeper than meets the eye, as any awakened heart can tell you.
When someone we care about dies, it brings us here, where we can form bonds with them that will last forever and touch us at our core. Loving and being loved are in our DNA. Loss, too, can heighten our reverence for the people we love.
I spoke in Los Angeles, California, a year ago at a conference for the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization. About a week passed while I was away. My youngest kid greeted me with a bear hug upon my homecoming. Both of us were missing him. His love seemed to flow into my heart. The spirit of my son moved me profoundly. For a heart that has awakened, this is the essence of a connection.
Nothing matters in the grand scheme of things when it comes to the soul's environment. A soul-based perspective on life begins when we stop seeing things through our physical eyes and start seeing things through our inner ones. To face death with optimism, faith, and love requires insight and the ability to perceive within.
As our ability to perceive internally deepens, we venture into the core of loss. This realization of our soul's essence will carry us past death and into everlasting life. For the trip ahead, may the One who made us all bestow strength upon us.
Writer Samuel Oliver, whose work includes "What the Dying Teach Us: Lessons on Living,"
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